minimandy14 - 11-18-2006 at 07:27 PM
Ok, I am like thee most horrible person EVER right now. And I know that some of you really don't care, but some of you are alot older and have more
experience and could help and give me some advice on what to do here. So there is this guy that I work with, and I've kinda been hanging out with him
for about a month, and I know that he really likes me, and I really like him, but he's being all lame and stuff by not asking me out (well he has, but
in a text messege, so I told him to ask me in person, and he hasn't yet {this has happend twice}). So when my friend was visiting from Michigan we
were walking around Wal-Mart and we started talking to this really hot guy that worked there. We got his phone number and he ended up asking me out on
a date about two weeks ago. But he never called or anything, after he had asked me over thee telephone. So I was just like whatever that's cool I'll
just hang out with this guy that I work with anyways, he's cool and I really like him, he's just being retarded right now. Well I'm at the bank
yesterday, and who should come in but the really hot guy from wal-mart. And he's all flirting with me and stuff, asking why we didn't go out and I was
like well you never called me and stuff, and he's like "blah blah blah I thought you didn't like me blah blah blah" kinda stuff you know? So I'm there
for like an hour (I had a problem with my account, some information stolen, really shitty) and he was trying to get his car re-financed. So we ended
up leaving at the same time, and he kisses me in the parking lot. . .I'm just like ummm ok, I don't really know you very well, but you're really hot
so this is ok. After that, I go and pick up the guy that I work with and we went out to dinner, we were going to go to the movies but his knee was
bothering him so I drove him home (the whole time he was saying about how "blah blah blah, ready for a relationship, blah blah blah, don't want to get
hurt, blah blah blah" kinda stuff) so I drive him home. I ended up hanging out with the wal-mart guy later that night, and going on a date with him
today, and he's really cool too. I really like both of them, and I am not one of those girls that's like "omg so many guys like me *giggle*giggle*" I
just can't decide what to do, honestly, never been in this situation before, I really want to chose one of them, and I can't decide. Both of them are
really awesome. . . . help?! Any advice? Anyone been here before? Poobs? Evil? Juno? Juno AND Evil at the same time?!
poobs - 11-19-2006 at 07:29 AM
Why not date them both? You're young..You don't need to be tied down to one guy..Unless that's what you're looking for..Even if it is, it doesn't seem
like you know either of these guys well enough to be committed..Just take your time..And don't have sex with either one of them!!!
imarob2 - 11-19-2006 at 11:18 AM
poobs, youre good at this.
you should start an advice column!
poobs - 11-19-2006 at 12:32 PM
Yeah..They say that the most fucked up people are therapists..I would be THE BEST!! 
One more thing, Amanda..Be completely and brutally honest with both guys..Don't lie and say that you're not dating anyone else if you really are..If
either one can't deal then you don't need to be dating them anyways..:saint:
minimandy14 - 11-19-2006 at 02:03 PM
Hmmm true. . . . but the thing is, is that one of them, his ex cheated on him, and to me, it kinda feels like I'm cheating. . . .
poobs - 11-19-2006 at 03:08 PM
How are you cheating if you're not in a committed relationship?
minimandy14 - 11-19-2006 at 03:25 PM
True . . . .But I still feel bad nonetheless! Because they don't know about eachother, and they both think that they're the only one that I'm seeing.
. . . . I don't know.
poobs - 11-19-2006 at 03:35 PM
Then you should tell them about each other..It's going to bum them out WAY more to find out in some roundabout way..Trust me on this..Honesty is the
ONLY way to deal with this in a mature fashion..But, do what you want..I've just learned in life that it's much easier to handle brutal honesty than
find out you've been lied to..
minimandy14 - 11-19-2006 at 07:19 PM
I told one of them, the wal-mart guy, about the other guy, he doesn't know that I work with the other guy though. . . and he's still like "oh well, I
really like you and blah blah blah" being all sweet and stuff. and then with the guy that I work with, that I've known longer, i'm like "oh you should
call me" and then he's like yea I'll call you later when I get out of the shower" and stuff and yea, it's like 920 and I'm like ummmmm when were you
planning on calling me? GAH!